[...]... people at parties and called them ‘show offs’ What’s the Lesson Here? Lisa learned to love herself more and to expect others to value her company and opinions She learned to flirt with life’ How highly do you value yourself? Are you too modest and self-effacing? Everyone has their challenges and the people in these stories learned to make changes and come out feeling great You can too! But first let’s... easier it is for you to flirt successfully and love it Do you know how wonderful you are? Great flirts know who they are, rejoice in it and are honest about it They feel good about themselves and transmit that to others If you want to be like this, it’s important that you begin to know more about who you are and to be proud of it WHO ARE YOU? YOUR STORY So, who do you think you are? This is how some of... jump out and change you overnight while you sleep They offer you ways of thinking and acting that can help you to change yourself for the better But you have to choose to do the work to make it happen! Do you want to choose to be a SuccessFlirt? Let’s start now! The Beginning xi INSIDEone part CHAPTER 1 SUCCESSFLIRTING – a way of life WHERE DOES FLIRTING BEGIN? The secret of great flirting is to begin... himself and women he liked He learned to remove his imaginary barriers and feel confident enough to ask a girl for a date You can make your dreams come true as well! JEFF’S STORY: Flirting his Way to Success For some people SuccessFlirting truly is a way of life Jeff Cain, for example, is one of the most accomplished flirts I’ve ever known His zest for life is exhilarating and energizes everyone around him... way of working is successful I invite you to come with me to explore the science of emotion SuccessFlirting – A Way of Life 17 CHAPTER 2 THE SCIENCE OF emotion EMOTIONS AND FLIRTING To flirt effectively, you have to feel good about yourself and be in a positive state of mind This means you need to have more positive emotions more often In order to achieve this, you have to know how you do it naturally... FLIRTING PATTERNS As a SuccessFlirt you will be able to make things happen for you, not to you You will make things happen because of what you do, not despite what you do What do you do now? You may have some patterns of behaviour that don’t serve you and some that do Let’s explore your current flirting patterns 10 FLIRT COACH HOW DO YOU FLIRT? Perhaps you are a bit of a flirt already Perhaps you flirt. ..stories and explorations that will help you discover how wonderful you are and make you even better It is about meeting yourself, growing to like and fall in love with yourself and learning to interact with the world from that basis This book is about how to flirt first with yourself and then with life, in such a way that people are drawn to you – irresistibly! PART I:... journey I’m here to guide you and motivate you to do it for yourself Do you want to feel better on a daily basis and begin to make others feel good too? What’s your answer – ‘yes’ or ‘yes’? Wherever you are in your life right now, remember that the best thing about the past is that it has passed away and the best thing about the future is that it is waiting for you to arrive – and to love every minute... relationship to a more sexual level He spent so much time being Mr Nice he forgot how to be Mr Sexy Women like a mixture of both! What’s the Lesson Here? Chris learned that he could turn up his sexual meter a little and send different messages to women Are you being too much of a nice guy and forgetting you are a sexual being too? LISA: ‘They Won’t Want to Talk to Little Me’ Lisa came into daily contact... STORING EMOTIONS Dr Candace Pert has proved that our body stores the physical memories of both bad and good emotions in our cells by changing their format Pert showed that bodies have pockets of ‘information receptors’ located everywhere The strongest clusters of these receptors are located around the entry point for the five senses, i.e nose, mouth, eyes, ears and skin Each receptor is programmed to . alt="" FLIRT coach How to Flirt for Friendship, Love and Professional Success Peta Heskell