... this desire. For those of us who love and care for self-injurers, con-fronting these stubborn patterns of thinking can be frustrating and draining. From the outside looking in, self-injury makes ... that doesn’t ruin life for everyone else. For these kids, self-injury may seem like a rea-sonable alternative, because it appears to be one coping mecha-nism that doesn’t directly impact the ... POINT FOR PARENTSThere are times when, due to our own deep hurt, fear, and confusion, we may communicate to our kids that their choices are making us into vic-tims. “After all I’ve done for...